Life's lessons learnt:)

So I believe that every day is a new day and we get to learn new things, be it a new word, a new phrase, a new trick, a new way to do something, something new about you as a person, or something new about a person in your life:)

Life they say is a journey, not a destination and as we go along on this incredible journey that really has no roadmaps, and has hidden surprises round every bend some good, some let's say not welcome. Don't you find that just when you get comfortable, think you have a sense of direction, have your goodies for the journey and have your goal - bump - ooops a speed breaker....so need to adjust the travel plans a bit.

Along the way you pick some fellow travelers and we may not know it then but they are all there for a reason - maybe to point you in the right direction or maybe the wrong, some there to let u know what your strengths are, some that make you rethink your destination, some to create joy and some sorrow.

We may think we have a choice but really we do not. It is all determined by the great wire puller. We need to recognise the signs or we get lost and confused.

As we go through this incredible journey we call life, I think it is extremely important to keep an open mind and heart, to welcome change, to be willing to learn, to experiment, to explore, to taste, yup sometimes even detours - who knows maybe u will find your paradise there? Or your oasis which you would not have if you decided to stay on the path and yup you can also get lost and end up where you don't want to.... it is all a matter of taking a chance.

As they say you never know till you try it:) Life has so many flavors, so many varieties, so many colors, so many choices, so many options but we limit ourselves with this self imposed restrictions because we do not think it is the right thing to do.

And we may possibly miss out on some incredible experiences or scenic views as we continue on our safe path.

Life is short and unpredictable, full of challenges, happiness and sorrow, good and bad so while on the road of life - put the top down - of your car, feel the wind in your hair, the drops of rain on your face, the smell of fresh mown grass, smell of wet earth, belt up and get ready for the unexpected and have an adventure!

Here's to lots of laughter, giggles, snuggles, joy and fun - Let your inner child out Run free and have a tumble or two....Cheers.

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Revelation! Yay

You know when you get one of those Duh moments, where the light goes on and you think why did I not think of it before? Well I had one of those moments.

Well it is as simple and as complicated as hmmm common sense? Common sense is not as common as we think. And no that is not it.

You know we live our entire life trying to fit into this particular stereotype that either society imposes on us or self imposed and if we do not fit that role - oh oh you are in trouble.

The perfect child, the perfect spouse, the perfect parent, the perfect employee/employer, etc etc

For most of us it is like hammering a square peg into a round hole. Ouch! No wonder we are bruised...

We try very hard to find a square peg - and some of us find it but most of us don't.

Rev 1 - We are all similar yet unique in our outlook, talents, perspective etc. We all have some talent in us, some skill that in inherent and needed to complete some task small or big does not really matter, just know that what you have to give is important in the whole bigger picture.

Rev 2- We all have our opinions on how people should be, how they should react to any given situation, how they need to live their lives because let's face it we want things to be our way or...
Uh huh - wake up call... We all have our good and bad. Only if one experiences the bad can one appreciate the good and vice versa. The biggest thing that mars or destroys any relationship, no matter what kind is "Expectation" Huge ramifications. We all have it, me included, whether we acknowledge it or not, whether consciously or sub consciously we expect something in return
and it flusters us when we do not get it. I think a lot of us will find peace and happiness when we let go of "expecting" something in return and just do things because you want to and not because you have to.

Rev 3- Pride, Ego, Trust, Fear, Vulnerability, Failure all govern our lives.
Pride - We all have that some more than others. It is, intertwined, with ego and fear, failure and vulnerability. We feel that if we do give in or acknowledge our weakness that it makes you inferior...but I personally think it only helps and how? Here is my take on it:) Pride and ego just get in the way of one achieving or getting what they want. Because of those emotions, we refuse to look at the problem from all angles. We are so overwhelmed with the way people perceive us that most if not all actions are governed by that.

Most of our actions are done with the fact in our mind, consciously or sub consciously, we all hunger for appreciation, accolades, applause, compliments, motivation because that gives us the impetus, the incentive to try harder. It is innate in our psyche to be appreciated and as that should be. That is the simple reason why a compliment, a positive comment brings a smile on our face.

Such a simple yet profound revelation I had was this. All it really really takes is a genuine heartfelt compliment, comment, smile, hug, to make the other person feel special. And you know what the kicker is....making the other person happy is guaranteed to put a smile on your face, a spring in your step. Don't believe me? Try it....Compliment a total stranger, smile, hold the door open for someone, help someone who is not expecting your help, surprise someone with something special, pick up the phone and connect. It is a wonderful feeling. Truly it is.

And I am?

We live our whole life being something to somebody. When we are born we r our parents son or daughter, then for some a sibling, then a spouse, a parent and so the cycle continues.

And I am not even getting to the extended family! We are so busy trying to be so many things to so many people that we lose sight of the most important part of it all "Who am I?" huh? I am the daughter of my parents, sister to my brother, wife to my husband, mother to my kids....and phew that is a lot! All our lives we try to live up to the expectations of people to whom we belong... an ideal daughter, sibling etc.... that when I do find time to ruminate or think of doing something for myself - feel guilty.

We are so intricately entwined in the myriad relationships we build in our lives, some by no choice of ours and some by our choice, that we tend to lose our needs, our thought processes our individuality, our self in the maze called life. If you do end up sorting and clearing through the sticky web of all the various expectations and try to take a stand for yourself, you are promptly branded a selfish person!

And we wonder why we are so stressed, moody, restless, angry, depressed, vindictive, tired and just plain ornery???

First we need to find ourselves, take care of us and only then can we take care of others, right?
First I am trying to find myself... I am......huh?

one step

Little drops make an ocean, Little bricks make a building, Small pebbles make a road, One step at a time will lead u to your goal maybe with detours, maybe with obstacles but that is what makes reaching your destination that much more enriching. Along the way you gather some friends, some foes some with you for a short ride some for the long haul - everyone there for a purpose. Do not ever think you are not worth it or you cannot do it because you can, because you are here to enrich to make a difference - does not have to be big - remember small actions can still have the most profound effect. Things that do not cost money or effort, a genuine smile, an unexpected compliment, a thoughtful gesture, a heartfelt hug, a positive attitude - there is too much ugliness in the world - Cmon my friends let us spread some cheer, some happiness, some kindness, some smiles and some laughter - one little step at a time and you know what? U will get what u give - Come hold my hand n let us begin from my heart to yours.............

I wanna

I wanna
walk without stumblin
run without trippin
get out of the chair without fallin
dance without tumblin

I wanna
cook for my babies without stumblin
drive them to activities without crashin
play with them without trippin
read to them without fumblin

I wanna
be able to skip down the stairs
hike treacherous trails
dance with gay abandon
do things at random

I wanna
be busy runnin
doin things without thinkin
creatin, visualisin, makin
all the little things that make up
the intricate nuances called LIFE

Rollercoaster called LIFE

Life is like a roller cooaster
Ups and downs
Twists and turns
sudden drops to bottom
lifting u to dizzying heights
only to drop into a free fall

I have always been nervous
about rollercoaster
worried about the twists n turns
apprehensive and yes scared.

Deep inside I know all
I have to do is get into one n
face my fears, I know
I need to be able to step out of my comfort zone
I did take a small step in
a small rollercoaster

One step at a time I can do it
I will
I have to
Only hope it is going to be worth it