Wednesday, August 6, 2008

Grand Parenting

Saw an article on this and thought I would write about my experiences. First of all, a heartfelt thanks to my in-laws and my parents for being the epitome of unselfishness by putting their lives on hold to help us and our siblings bring up our children:)
Right from when my oldest ,who is 8 and a half now, was born till he was 3 we have had either my parents or my in laws visiting from India and spend several months, putting their lives on hold and grand parenting. Yes they lived with us and yes there were tense moments but I always look at the big picture - the kids get to spend quality time with their grandparents, get to be spoilt and yes most importantly learn fom them just like we did.
And we get to bond with parents in a different way - as adults and being able to disagree with them, sharing experiences, being able to tell them what is on your mind .makes you feel the comfort of childhood.
But let me warn you that you need to be flexible too. You need to be open to ideas and suggestions. You don't have to follow it because you as a mom know your kid the best. Of coz it also depends on your relationship with them. If you have a strained relationship, well you are better off with day care:) Relationships are complicated at best and adding more to the mix - well as I say it all depends on how you deal with it.
It is so easy to blow up, have a confrontation but to what end? Mine mostly has been a positive experience. I would love to hear your thoughts;)
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