Monday, September 29, 2008
life and such...
Well Well I never thought I would be so philosophical, but I guess certain happenings make you reflective and I guess that is what happened to me :)I am not a grim person to begin with. I have been told I am a child in an adults body:) I just know I look at life differently. I am the one who will put a positive spin on anything, have a wicked sense of humor and yup look at the glass half full. No I am not going to list all my virtues - there is not enough tiime and words :) Kidding!What I am thinking about is the correlation between mental peace and emotional strength and physical manifestations of the same. If you are mentally and emotionally at peace would that automatically manifest itself into robust health? And vice versa? Anyone has experiences please share....Does a weakened mental state also mean health issues? Life is complicated enough... why do we strive to further complicate it by our attitude, our actions, our thoughts and yes our words?Point to ponder upon..... I would love to hear from you if you have found peace and contentment and be ready to share ur secret:)You can also reach me at sutapa@creatvproductions.com
Saturday, September 20, 2008
Words!
Words Words Words ---- What a discovery! Words written or spoken have so much of power, it is incredible. It can make or break, create unrest, find love, express something beautiful, ugly, used to express yourself. These seemingly innocuous formation of alphabets is amazing.
There are literally billions of words around us, we are surrounded by them, we are defined by them, they are so powerful they have the power to cut through flesh and pierce your heart, they have the power to go through your skull and float around in your head sometimes taking on a whole new meaning. Words can be flowery and beautiful, ornery and hateful, kind and hurtful, simple and complicated, profound and shallow……
We seemingly effortlessly spew off most of the times without thinking of the repercussions or the effect it has on the other party. We seem to feel good after venting not fully realizing the effect they have on others.
They are also helpful, in expressing our innermost feelings, fear, guilt, joy, happiness, beauty, rage, hurt, and so many other nuances of our lives….
I think they need to be used with care. I am guilty of being careless with them, cruel and hurtful, and yes also kind and have also been the recipient of the same…. It is human nature to retain the hurtful and cruel words and forget about the kind ones.
And yes words also help to clear the air, clear up misunderstandings etc….
They have an incredible power over us, our lives, relationships etc……
And the purpose of my diatribe - well to utilize words!
There are literally billions of words around us, we are surrounded by them, we are defined by them, they are so powerful they have the power to cut through flesh and pierce your heart, they have the power to go through your skull and float around in your head sometimes taking on a whole new meaning. Words can be flowery and beautiful, ornery and hateful, kind and hurtful, simple and complicated, profound and shallow……
We seemingly effortlessly spew off most of the times without thinking of the repercussions or the effect it has on the other party. We seem to feel good after venting not fully realizing the effect they have on others.
They are also helpful, in expressing our innermost feelings, fear, guilt, joy, happiness, beauty, rage, hurt, and so many other nuances of our lives….
I think they need to be used with care. I am guilty of being careless with them, cruel and hurtful, and yes also kind and have also been the recipient of the same…. It is human nature to retain the hurtful and cruel words and forget about the kind ones.
And yes words also help to clear the air, clear up misunderstandings etc….
They have an incredible power over us, our lives, relationships etc……
And the purpose of my diatribe - well to utilize words!
Friday, August 15, 2008
Is it my fault???
Is it my fault that I have been diagnosed with a chronic disease? Is it my fault that I got a dreaded disease on to the family tree? Is it my fault that I cannot contribute to the family finances because of my health issues? Is it my fault that I cannot be as involved or as attentive to my kids as I would like to be because of the way my medications make me feel?
Is it my fault that I have Parkinson's? Is it my fault that I am unable to keep my eyes open because hey I am the lucky one and I have this rare side effect of PD that makes me unable to keep my eyes open?
Guilt is everpresent, makes it worse. I try to tell myself it's not my fault. But I wonder why me when I look at my beautiful, wonderful kids. Why them? Why should they see their mother unable to walk, why should they know about doctor's visit at such a young age, why should they live with the thought with the knowledge that their mom is not well?
Why me???
Is it my fault that I have Parkinson's? Is it my fault that I am unable to keep my eyes open because hey I am the lucky one and I have this rare side effect of PD that makes me unable to keep my eyes open?
Guilt is everpresent, makes it worse. I try to tell myself it's not my fault. But I wonder why me when I look at my beautiful, wonderful kids. Why them? Why should they see their mother unable to walk, why should they know about doctor's visit at such a young age, why should they live with the thought with the knowledge that their mom is not well?
Why me???
Sunday, August 10, 2008
Wednesday, August 6, 2008
Grand Parenting
Saw an article on this and thought I would write about my experiences. First of all, a heartfelt thanks to my in-laws and my parents for being the epitome of unselfishness by putting their lives on hold to help us and our siblings bring up our children:)
Right from when my oldest ,who is 8 and a half now, was born till he was 3 we have had either my parents or my in laws visiting from India and spend several months, putting their lives on hold and grand parenting. Yes they lived with us and yes there were tense moments but I always look at the big picture - the kids get to spend quality time with their grandparents, get to be spoilt and yes most importantly learn fom them just like we did.
And we get to bond with parents in a different way - as adults and being able to disagree with them, sharing experiences, being able to tell them what is on your mind .makes you feel the comfort of childhood.
But let me warn you that you need to be flexible too. You need to be open to ideas and suggestions. You don't have to follow it because you as a mom know your kid the best. Of coz it also depends on your relationship with them. If you have a strained relationship, well you are better off with day care:) Relationships are complicated at best and adding more to the mix - well as I say it all depends on how you deal with it.
It is so easy to blow up, have a confrontation but to what end? Mine mostly has been a positive experience. I would love to hear your thoughts;)
Cheers.
Sutapa
www.creatvproductions.com
Right from when my oldest ,who is 8 and a half now, was born till he was 3 we have had either my parents or my in laws visiting from India and spend several months, putting their lives on hold and grand parenting. Yes they lived with us and yes there were tense moments but I always look at the big picture - the kids get to spend quality time with their grandparents, get to be spoilt and yes most importantly learn fom them just like we did.
And we get to bond with parents in a different way - as adults and being able to disagree with them, sharing experiences, being able to tell them what is on your mind .makes you feel the comfort of childhood.
But let me warn you that you need to be flexible too. You need to be open to ideas and suggestions. You don't have to follow it because you as a mom know your kid the best. Of coz it also depends on your relationship with them. If you have a strained relationship, well you are better off with day care:) Relationships are complicated at best and adding more to the mix - well as I say it all depends on how you deal with it.
It is so easy to blow up, have a confrontation but to what end? Mine mostly has been a positive experience. I would love to hear your thoughts;)
Cheers.
Sutapa
www.creatvproductions.com
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