A simple line but a complicated result?
Seriously how many of us take pleasure in life's simple things? We are all so wired up to go somewhere, do something, achieve our goals, fulfill our desires, complete our to do check list, catch up with our peers, make the million dollars and after that the next million....
And by wired or should I say wireless:) literally we are bombarded with messages, im's, sms, voicemails, emails, tweets, etc etc. And now we can browse the internet on our mobiles!!! Gasp! Help me I am addicted - have to check my emails - whether they are to enhance certain body parts-it's a diff thing that they are targeting the wrong gender, or the latest, most happening sale going on - that OMG is ending tomorrow- hmmm wait did it not say so in the email last week... oh never mind gotta go and check it out, lest I miss out on a deal!! or the latest in chain emails that promise dire happenings if you do not forward that email to 10,000 other friends, to checking my IM's, social networking sites.....PHEW!
Excuse me - uh where the heck do I find time for simple things, to smell the roses, or to feel the raindrops on your face, or to inhale the scent of the ground after the first rain, or freshly mown grass, to drink and savor my morning coffee, to read a leisurely book - what if while I am doing that I miss out on the next happening thing....Jeez...
As it is we all have busy schedules, things to do, goals to achieve, catch up with our peers, buy that house, get that new car and oh yeah the latest gadgets.... just when you master one - they become obsolete and you realise you are two versions behind...more catch up to do.... I can go on and on but you see my cell phone is vibrating urgently telling me I have new email - so gotta check it out..... Darn is that raindrops falling on my window- do I go outside to feel the rain on my face....maybe later need to check my email......
Sunday, March 21, 2010
Monday, March 8, 2010
Memories
Life is many ways a circle - you meet with some people- grow apart- several years later- reconnect with some-find synergies where there was none before-find disconnects where there was connection-nostalgia-memories a feeling of traversing a lifetime, a feeling of wonder, recollections and amazement as you realize that different people in different stages of your life have their own memories and what they remember about you and how they view you.
As you piece together the chain of memories and recollections of the people you have met as you trod along life's path you come across some common opinions, memories, recollections and realise that that is what you are at the basic core of your heart because that does not change. No matter how old you grow and where you are your basic nature remains the same, it is the layers you add on to as you go through life, physical, mental, emotional that changes with time and colors the perception of the people you interact.
It is indeed fascinating to see if you have progressed or regressed, the constants and the variables, the perceptions and as you look back at your life, the choices you made and how far one has come and what kind of memories one leaves behind, positive or negative,
Memories - some can leave you feeling good some not so good - so you take the good ones and you weave together a beautiful mosaic of your life for you to comfort you in your dark moments as you relive them and they put a smile in your heart as they are yours and only yours to treasure:)
As you piece together the chain of memories and recollections of the people you have met as you trod along life's path you come across some common opinions, memories, recollections and realise that that is what you are at the basic core of your heart because that does not change. No matter how old you grow and where you are your basic nature remains the same, it is the layers you add on to as you go through life, physical, mental, emotional that changes with time and colors the perception of the people you interact.
It is indeed fascinating to see if you have progressed or regressed, the constants and the variables, the perceptions and as you look back at your life, the choices you made and how far one has come and what kind of memories one leaves behind, positive or negative,
Memories - some can leave you feeling good some not so good - so you take the good ones and you weave together a beautiful mosaic of your life for you to comfort you in your dark moments as you relive them and they put a smile in your heart as they are yours and only yours to treasure:)
Thursday, January 28, 2010
Life's lessons learnt:)
So I believe that every day is a new day and we get to learn new things, be it a new word, a new phrase, a new trick, a new way to do something, something new about you as a person, or something new about a person in your life:)
Life they say is a journey, not a destination and as we go along on this incredible journey that really has no roadmaps, and has hidden surprises round every bend some good, some let's say not welcome. Don't you find that just when you get comfortable, think you have a sense of direction, have your goodies for the journey and have your goal - bump - ooops a speed breaker....so need to adjust the travel plans a bit.
Along the way you pick some fellow travelers and we may not know it then but they are all there for a reason - maybe to point you in the right direction or maybe the wrong, some there to let u know what your strengths are, some that make you rethink your destination, some to create joy and some sorrow.
We may think we have a choice but really we do not. It is all determined by the great wire puller. We need to recognise the signs or we get lost and confused.
As we go through this incredible journey we call life, I think it is extremely important to keep an open mind and heart, to welcome change, to be willing to learn, to experiment, to explore, to taste, yup sometimes even detours - who knows maybe u will find your paradise there? Or your oasis which you would not have if you decided to stay on the path and yup you can also get lost and end up where you don't want to.... it is all a matter of taking a chance.
As they say you never know till you try it:) Life has so many flavors, so many varieties, so many colors, so many choices, so many options but we limit ourselves with this self imposed restrictions because we do not think it is the right thing to do.
And we may possibly miss out on some incredible experiences or scenic views as we continue on our safe path.
Life is short and unpredictable, full of challenges, happiness and sorrow, good and bad so while on the road of life - put the top down - of your car, feel the wind in your hair, the drops of rain on your face, the smell of fresh mown grass, smell of wet earth, belt up and get ready for the unexpected and have an adventure!
Here's to lots of laughter, giggles, snuggles, joy and fun - Let your inner child out Run free and have a tumble or two....Cheers.
Life they say is a journey, not a destination and as we go along on this incredible journey that really has no roadmaps, and has hidden surprises round every bend some good, some let's say not welcome. Don't you find that just when you get comfortable, think you have a sense of direction, have your goodies for the journey and have your goal - bump - ooops a speed breaker....so need to adjust the travel plans a bit.
Along the way you pick some fellow travelers and we may not know it then but they are all there for a reason - maybe to point you in the right direction or maybe the wrong, some there to let u know what your strengths are, some that make you rethink your destination, some to create joy and some sorrow.
We may think we have a choice but really we do not. It is all determined by the great wire puller. We need to recognise the signs or we get lost and confused.
As we go through this incredible journey we call life, I think it is extremely important to keep an open mind and heart, to welcome change, to be willing to learn, to experiment, to explore, to taste, yup sometimes even detours - who knows maybe u will find your paradise there? Or your oasis which you would not have if you decided to stay on the path and yup you can also get lost and end up where you don't want to.... it is all a matter of taking a chance.
As they say you never know till you try it:) Life has so many flavors, so many varieties, so many colors, so many choices, so many options but we limit ourselves with this self imposed restrictions because we do not think it is the right thing to do.
And we may possibly miss out on some incredible experiences or scenic views as we continue on our safe path.
Life is short and unpredictable, full of challenges, happiness and sorrow, good and bad so while on the road of life - put the top down - of your car, feel the wind in your hair, the drops of rain on your face, the smell of fresh mown grass, smell of wet earth, belt up and get ready for the unexpected and have an adventure!
Here's to lots of laughter, giggles, snuggles, joy and fun - Let your inner child out Run free and have a tumble or two....Cheers.
Sunday, December 13, 2009
Wednesday, November 25, 2009
Revelation! Yay
You know when you get one of those Duh moments, where the light goes on and you think why did I not think of it before? Well I had one of those moments.
Well it is as simple and as complicated as hmmm common sense? Common sense is not as common as we think. And no that is not it.
You know we live our entire life trying to fit into this particular stereotype that either society imposes on us or self imposed and if we do not fit that role - oh oh you are in trouble.
The perfect child, the perfect spouse, the perfect parent, the perfect employee/employer, etc etc
For most of us it is like hammering a square peg into a round hole. Ouch! No wonder we are bruised...
We try very hard to find a square peg - and some of us find it but most of us don't.
Rev 1 - We are all similar yet unique in our outlook, talents, perspective etc. We all have some talent in us, some skill that in inherent and needed to complete some task small or big does not really matter, just know that what you have to give is important in the whole bigger picture.
Rev 2- We all have our opinions on how people should be, how they should react to any given situation, how they need to live their lives because let's face it we want things to be our way or...
Uh huh - wake up call... We all have our good and bad. Only if one experiences the bad can one appreciate the good and vice versa. The biggest thing that mars or destroys any relationship, no matter what kind is "Expectation" Huge ramifications. We all have it, me included, whether we acknowledge it or not, whether consciously or sub consciously we expect something in return
and it flusters us when we do not get it. I think a lot of us will find peace and happiness when we let go of "expecting" something in return and just do things because you want to and not because you have to.
Rev 3- Pride, Ego, Trust, Fear, Vulnerability, Failure all govern our lives.
Pride - We all have that some more than others. It is, intertwined, with ego and fear, failure and vulnerability. We feel that if we do give in or acknowledge our weakness that it makes you inferior...but I personally think it only helps and how? Here is my take on it:) Pride and ego just get in the way of one achieving or getting what they want. Because of those emotions, we refuse to look at the problem from all angles. We are so overwhelmed with the way people perceive us that most if not all actions are governed by that.
Most of our actions are done with the fact in our mind, consciously or sub consciously, we all hunger for appreciation, accolades, applause, compliments, motivation because that gives us the impetus, the incentive to try harder. It is innate in our psyche to be appreciated and as that should be. That is the simple reason why a compliment, a positive comment brings a smile on our face.
Such a simple yet profound revelation I had was this. All it really really takes is a genuine heartfelt compliment, comment, smile, hug, to make the other person feel special. And you know what the kicker is....making the other person happy is guaranteed to put a smile on your face, a spring in your step. Don't believe me? Try it....Compliment a total stranger, smile, hold the door open for someone, help someone who is not expecting your help, surprise someone with something special, pick up the phone and connect. It is a wonderful feeling. Truly it is.
Rev 2- We all have our opinions on how people should be, how they should react to any given situation, how they need to live their lives because let's face it we want things to be our way or...
Uh huh - wake up call... We all have our good and bad. Only if one experiences the bad can one appreciate the good and vice versa. The biggest thing that mars or destroys any relationship, no matter what kind is "Expectation" Huge ramifications. We all have it, me included, whether we acknowledge it or not, whether consciously or sub consciously we expect something in return
and it flusters us when we do not get it. I think a lot of us will find peace and happiness when we let go of "expecting" something in return and just do things because you want to and not because you have to.
Rev 3- Pride, Ego, Trust, Fear, Vulnerability, Failure all govern our lives.
Pride - We all have that some more than others. It is, intertwined, with ego and fear, failure and vulnerability. We feel that if we do give in or acknowledge our weakness that it makes you inferior...but I personally think it only helps and how? Here is my take on it:) Pride and ego just get in the way of one achieving or getting what they want. Because of those emotions, we refuse to look at the problem from all angles. We are so overwhelmed with the way people perceive us that most if not all actions are governed by that.
Most of our actions are done with the fact in our mind, consciously or sub consciously, we all hunger for appreciation, accolades, applause, compliments, motivation because that gives us the impetus, the incentive to try harder. It is innate in our psyche to be appreciated and as that should be. That is the simple reason why a compliment, a positive comment brings a smile on our face.
Such a simple yet profound revelation I had was this. All it really really takes is a genuine heartfelt compliment, comment, smile, hug, to make the other person feel special. And you know what the kicker is....making the other person happy is guaranteed to put a smile on your face, a spring in your step. Don't believe me? Try it....Compliment a total stranger, smile, hold the door open for someone, help someone who is not expecting your help, surprise someone with something special, pick up the phone and connect. It is a wonderful feeling. Truly it is.
Friday, October 30, 2009
And I am?
We live our whole life being something to somebody. When we are born we r our parents son or daughter, then for some a sibling, then a spouse, a parent and so the cycle continues.
And I am not even getting to the extended family! We are so busy trying to be so many things to so many people that we lose sight of the most important part of it all "Who am I?" huh? I am the daughter of my parents, sister to my brother, wife to my husband, mother to my kids....and phew that is a lot! All our lives we try to live up to the expectations of people to whom we belong... an ideal daughter, sibling etc.... that when I do find time to ruminate or think of doing something for myself - feel guilty.
We are so intricately entwined in the myriad relationships we build in our lives, some by no choice of ours and some by our choice, that we tend to lose our needs, our thought processes our individuality, our self in the maze called life. If you do end up sorting and clearing through the sticky web of all the various expectations and try to take a stand for yourself, you are promptly branded a selfish person!
And we wonder why we are so stressed, moody, restless, angry, depressed, vindictive, tired and just plain ornery???
First we need to find ourselves, take care of us and only then can we take care of others, right?
First I am trying to find myself... I am......huh?
And I am not even getting to the extended family! We are so busy trying to be so many things to so many people that we lose sight of the most important part of it all "Who am I?" huh? I am the daughter of my parents, sister to my brother, wife to my husband, mother to my kids....and phew that is a lot! All our lives we try to live up to the expectations of people to whom we belong... an ideal daughter, sibling etc.... that when I do find time to ruminate or think of doing something for myself - feel guilty.
We are so intricately entwined in the myriad relationships we build in our lives, some by no choice of ours and some by our choice, that we tend to lose our needs, our thought processes our individuality, our self in the maze called life. If you do end up sorting and clearing through the sticky web of all the various expectations and try to take a stand for yourself, you are promptly branded a selfish person!
And we wonder why we are so stressed, moody, restless, angry, depressed, vindictive, tired and just plain ornery???
First we need to find ourselves, take care of us and only then can we take care of others, right?
First I am trying to find myself... I am......huh?
Thursday, October 8, 2009
one step
Little drops make an ocean, Little bricks make a building, Small pebbles make a road, One step at a time will lead u to your goal maybe with detours, maybe with obstacles but that is what makes reaching your destination that much more enriching. Along the way you gather some friends, some foes some with you for a short ride some for the long haul - everyone there for a purpose. Do not ever think you are not worth it or you cannot do it because you can, because you are here to enrich to make a difference - does not have to be big - remember small actions can still have the most profound effect. Things that do not cost money or effort, a genuine smile, an unexpected compliment, a thoughtful gesture, a heartfelt hug, a positive attitude - there is too much ugliness in the world - Cmon my friends let us spread some cheer, some happiness, some kindness, some smiles and some laughter - one little step at a time and you know what? U will get what u give - Come hold my hand n let us begin from my heart to yours.............
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